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I don't think that saying ones sexuality is involved in ones decision to change change ones gender is reaching at all. I actually think stating that ones sexuality is not involved in such a decision is not having much of a grasp on the decision making process at all.
In all the discussions I've seen in the media, here in the LR, etc, sex, the type of sex a person wants to have, etc. has not been the core issue behind gender identity issues. Who you want to have sex with and how are separate items (although certainly interrelated) from what gender you feel like you are.
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If one thinks they should have a vagina rather then a penis does it not stand to reason that in at least some of those cases, I would argue most of them, that the person making such a decision takes into consideration the act of sex and their sexual preferences?
Taking the issue into consideration is one thing. Making a change because of a desire to have sex through a different organ is another, and not a motivation I've heard put forth in any discussion. As I pointed out, many (maybe most) transgendered people don't ever go through any surgical alterations.
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Do you think it's possible that part of the reason they "Think they are supposed to be that way" is because the idea of, sexual preference for, desire for, feelings for etc etc are also that way?
Not in general, no. How would a person even know what it's supposed to feel like to have sex through a different organ?
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Essentially what you're attempting to say is the decision is made like this
Person 1 "Gee I have a penis, I think I should have a vagina".
Person 2 "Well do you prefer the idea of having a penis in your vagina over having your penis in a vagina?"
Person 1 "Gee never really thought about it. Not really part of my decision. I just think I should have a vagina."
If anyone is reaching with the above, it's you.
You dramatically misunderstand transgenders and gender identity issues if you think the primary concern is about thinking you're supposed to have a vagina instead of a penis. The issues is feeling like you're supposed to be a different sex. In total. Not just dangly bits. And not just for sex.
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Which is not what we are talking about so I'm not sure how it applies. A person who wants to look like a female is not the same thing as a person who wants to have the same genitalia as a female which is not the same as a male that wants to look like a male, keep the penis and have sex with other males.
Well, somewhat true. The first two might both be examples of transgenders (so long as we're discounting cross dressing), and the last is an example of a homosexual. If we're talking about transgendered people, which is what this thread is about, then both of the first two fall under that category.
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All of these are different, all have to do with sexuality as they all deal with sexual preferences, feelings and desires surrounding sex.
I think the last is obviously an issue of sexuality and sexual preference. I think the first two are issues dealing with self perceptions of what gender/sex you're supposed to be, and not typically an issue of sexuality or preference. You can be a transgendered person who switches from male to female. You can then prefer sex with either women or men. It's not like a man who becomes a woman also necessarily prefers sex with men.
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