One of my managers has a 13yo teenage daughter, and one say my manager (Y) looks at me and says "do you have any idea what to do about a friend of J's (her DD) who throws up, thinks she's fat and likes cutting herself?" - WOW. I used to be a teen peer counselor so that's why she asked. But as much as I hate my belly and thighs and saggy boobs, and as many times I have thought about eating too little or going extreme on diet or exercise, I can't. I know for me, it's not right. But I also have seen how when someone's mind is fixated on an ideal, it's hard to sway them from dangerous and unhealthy behaviour.
My mother was a top-notch ballerina. She was tall and skinny, it's her genetics, but she was also an amazing dancer. Danced around the world she did, all before she was 20. I danced until I was 13, when my big boobs and big butt showed up, it's *my* genetics. I got over it quickly as I was easily distracted by track & field, basketball, volleyball, etc. My DD, when she was 6yo, made an off hand remark to her afther about "not wanting to get fat like mommy" and it was only because I mentioned that I stopped dancing due to my size. My mom still thinks I'm fat and always will. But I refuse to let my daughter (who has my genetics) think she's fat.
Little phrases, little words, little mannerisms... they all add up.
AP
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"How bad could it be?" - SimpleS
My mother was a top-notch ballerina. She was tall and skinny, it's her genetics, but she was also an amazing dancer. Danced around the world she did, all before she was 20. I danced until I was 13, when my big boobs and big butt showed up, it's *my* genetics. I got over it quickly as I was easily distracted by track & field, basketball, volleyball, etc. My DD, when she was 6yo, made an off hand remark to her afther about "not wanting to get fat like mommy" and it was only because I mentioned that I stopped dancing due to my size. My mom still thinks I'm fat and always will. But I refuse to let my daughter (who has my genetics) think she's fat.
Little phrases, little words, little mannerisms... they all add up.
AP
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"How bad could it be?" - SimpleS