Spanking?
The only time my daughter caught a spanking was when she ran in trafficewhen she was 2 1/2. I smacked her butt due to a combination of terror (it scared the heck out of me) and anger (which was really terror masking itself as a different emotion). She never ran in traffic again. I've never consistently spanked my children. But I will admit it to the very rare paddle on the bottom due to consistent ignoring of me.
I work with kids. A lot of them and find some consistent traits amongst the very best (and very worst) in relation to their behavior. Before I state them let me say that I don't believe in 'good' or 'bad' kids. Very often the 'good' kids will commit heinous activities (Glen Ridge, NJ - gang rape of a retarded girl by football players - 1989) and the 'bad' kids will often excel in specific areas (ever take a 'bad' kid to deliver Christmas presents to poor kids - absolutely amazing).
The traits that well-behaved children share are:
Firm, fair and consistent behavior expectations at home
Treatment based on dignity and communication
Access to and strong relations with trusted adults
Schools that appropriately challenge their abilities and appropriate celebrate their accomplishments.
Parents that recognize that schools are partners, not servants or lackeys
The traits that poorly behaved children share:
Inconsistent communication with parents
Parent interaction that is spotty at best and neglectful at worst
Mobility - moving from school to school (not always - but often)
Parents that can't or won't recognize schools as partners
Schools that degrade or hurt them through lack of respect and/or neglect.
The bottom line is that children mirror and mimic the adults they are around. Eventually they will become their parents...this can be a good thing or this can be a bad thing. If the parent is poor, the child may be able to change behavior patterns with proper adult intervention.
my two cents,
B.
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