I'm so confused. As a big proponent of LGBT rights, I'm still confused by this. I've no problem with transgender folks, going so far to concede that there may very well be a sort of natural gap between what's in the physical parts and the brain chemistry, where one is truly possibly a man on the exterior but fully female in all other ways. We don't have the science to know this, but we haven't had the science to know a lot of things we later discovered were scientifically true....not to say that everyone who's trans fits into that bucket vs. the nurture bucket.
But that said, I also like women. A lot. And if I were to be single again I sure would like to know that someone I would possibly be entering into a relationship with would be fully capable of being what I'm completely attracted to, because no amount of dating and getting to know someone before hitting the sheets, only to find a wang staring me in the face, would suddenly make me overcome everything I like about women in the most basic biological sense. There are some things that just cannot be replicated in any other way, certain smells that are only the way they are when they're what they are, among other things.
I mean, as much as I like a grape flavored Jolly Rancher for what it is, it ain't a grape. And when I want to taste a grape, I want a grape. Or a nectarine.
Demanding trans people come out to potential partners is transphobic.
...So when a cis person argues that a trans person has an obligation to come out to someone before dating them, they are saying trans people have an obligation to accommodate their transphobia. Plus, claiming that trans people are obligated to come out reinforces the idea that not being attracted to trans people is reasonable. But as I've pointed out, not being attracted to trans people supports the idea that transness is disgusting which is the basis for transphobic oppression.
This is madness.
But that said, I also like women. A lot. And if I were to be single again I sure would like to know that someone I would possibly be entering into a relationship with would be fully capable of being what I'm completely attracted to, because no amount of dating and getting to know someone before hitting the sheets, only to find a wang staring me in the face, would suddenly make me overcome everything I like about women in the most basic biological sense. There are some things that just cannot be replicated in any other way, certain smells that are only the way they are when they're what they are, among other things.
I mean, as much as I like a grape flavored Jolly Rancher for what it is, it ain't a grape. And when I want to taste a grape, I want a grape. Or a nectarine.
sphere wrote:
I think the #metoo'ers are generally savvy enough to avoid this scud missile. Not that they really overlap, anyway. Quote:
No, I Don't Have To Tell You I'm Trans Before Dating You Demanding trans people come out to potential partners is transphobic.
...So when a cis person argues that a trans person has an obligation to come out to someone before dating them, they are saying trans people have an obligation to accommodate their transphobia. Plus, claiming that trans people are obligated to come out reinforces the idea that not being attracted to trans people is reasonable. But as I've pointed out, not being attracted to trans people supports the idea that transness is disgusting which is the basis for transphobic oppression.
This is madness.
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MidwestRoadie: Jan 9, 18 15:07