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Mr. Tibbs
Feb 29, 12 0:09
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Re: Women...ugh. [AlanShearer]
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I think you're wrong. He should send a picture of his naked fully engorged man member.
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tigerchik
Feb 29, 12 1:01
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It's because women think that men need to be let down easy. She was afraid to say "sorry, not gonna work" for fear it would hurt your feelings.
Is it better if we just say "sorry, not going to work" ?
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aftereffector
Feb 29, 12 3:03
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Re: Women...ugh. [tigerchik]
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Yes.
SProboscis
Feb 29, 12 4:17
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Re: Women...ugh. [chuckn]
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Quite simple. She met someone else. You are her plan "B" if her plan "A" doesnt work out. Thats why she complimented you, then, dumped you(just wants to be friends). Its just like the " I love you, but Im not in love with you" line.
SProboscis
Feb 29, 12 4:21
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Re: Women...ugh. [Mojozenmaster]
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My wife is learning this right now. I think she was born unhappy. Oh, well. Be gone with her.
NJSteve
Feb 29, 12 4:38
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Re: Women...ugh. [chuckn]
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I know this may be personal, but I have to ask:
Is your seat too high?
tigerpaws
Feb 29, 12 4:42
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Re: Women...ugh. [chuckn]
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I say cut her a little slack, divorce is brutal from what I can glean.
You can always punt the divorced dating route and go younger/no divorce pool of women as well. I went through a series of tough relationships with divorced women and finally decided I was not willing to inherit the laundry list of issues from their marriages. We had awesome times, but the amount of stress imposed on us from kids/ex + internal demons the hadn't dealt with was just too much. I felt for these women, but they had far too much for me to help them with and some of these things have to be dealt with by them and only them.
I am dating a woman substantially younger than me and at one year it's been fantastic. It's heading to a degree of certainty I'm not sure I thought I would find, but it's free of all the baggage I tried to deal with in the mid 30's divorcee dating pool. She's extremely mature for her age no question that helps. We laugh hysterically every day, talk about everything and she's my best buddy too. Disagreements are brief and rare, but we talk them out pronto never go to bed with anything unsaid. I wish I had known it could be this fun years ago!
My 2 cents is that it's pretty cool she let you down early and didn't string you along. Consider dating women who don't have a U-Haul of issues to sort through. Relationships are hard enough, but when you add in the kind of damage a divorce does it's exponentially more difficult in my experience.
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haole
Feb 29, 12 4:56
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Re: Women...ugh. [AlanShearer]
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Not only what she said, but the fact that she texted it -- she's not interested in you.
she seems to be one classy lady...at least she didn't use Facebook to break your heart.
JohnnySlimane
Feb 29, 12 5:15
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Re: Women...ugh. [SProboscis]
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SProboscis wrote:
Quite simple. She met someone else. You are her plan "B" if her plan "A" doesnt work out.
This, and that someone else probably makes more money than you.
AutomaticJack
Feb 29, 12 5:40
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chuckn wrote:
..., that she just wants to be friends. Huh? WTF? ...
With Benefits? If so I'm willing to be her friend also. What's the problem?
Old Hickory
Feb 29, 12 6:12
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I'd run from the "divorced with kids" situational drama. You're much better off not having to deal with that thriple-headed monster.
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Feb 29, 12 6:20
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Don't worry about her for another minute. But you should still throw the hail mary pass to score the friends with benefits touchdown.
Text her back. "Sorry to hear that, I understand. It won't work being friends though. I found you incredibly attractive and sexy, and do not want to be having to fight off the physical attraction. I wish you the best in finding the right person."
Then, about 3 minutes later text, "But seriously, if you are ever in need of a booty call, you have my number. Not trying to be an ass, but you are a very attractive woman!"
ZERO downside. Excellent upside.
timboricki
Feb 29, 12 7:16
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Skippy wrote:
Don't worry about her for another minute. But you should still throw the hail mary pass to score the friends with benefits touchdown.
Text her back. "Sorry to hear that, I understand. It won't work being friends though. I found you incredibly attractive and sexy, and do not want to be having to fight off the physical attraction. I wish you the best in finding the right person."
Then, about 3 minutes later text, "But seriously, if you are ever in need of a booty call, you have my number. Not trying to be an ass, but you are a very attractive woman!"
ZERO downside. Excellent upside.
And then 2 minutes later text "Or if you have any slutty friends, give them my number."
haole
Feb 29, 12 7:25
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timboricki wrote:
Skippy wrote:
Don't worry about her for another minute. But you should still throw the hail mary pass to score the friends with benefits touchdown.
Text her back. "Sorry to hear that, I understand. It won't work being friends though. I found you incredibly attractive and sexy, and do not want to be having to fight off the physical attraction. I wish you the best in finding the right person."
Then, about 3 minutes later text, "But seriously, if you are ever in need of a booty call, you have my number. Not trying to be an ass, but you are a very attractive woman!"
ZERO downside. Excellent upside.
And then 2 minutes later text "Or if you have any slutty friends, give them my number."
keep it simple keep it stupid
wanna fuck? i'm there for you so you know...xoxo
Ogz
Feb 29, 12 8:12
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Re: Women...ugh. [tigerpaws]
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The mid-30's divorcee dating pool is a cluster f-k of epic proportions I have found. Take the text as an easy let down and move on.
chuckn
Feb 29, 12 8:27
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Yep, I am done with pursuing divorced women. Unfortunately on Match, 90% of women on there are divorced. Where does a never-married, handsome, nice and honest single guy go to meet a never-married, attractive, nice and honest single woman?
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Feb 29, 12 8:28
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Re: Women...ugh. [chuckn]
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Sadistic lesbian, is my only guess.
"Reason obeys itself; ignorance submits to whatever is dictated to it." - T. Paine
tigerpaws
Feb 29, 12 8:33
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chuckn wrote:
Yep, I am done with pursuing divorced women. Unfortunately on Match, 90% of women on there are divorced. Where does a never-married, handsome, nice and honest single guy go to meet a never-married, attractive, nice and honest single woman?
In the past 3 years my girlfriends were met: Atlanta airport, grocery and gym(current). Notice none of these locales were bars! Don't be scared of dipping into the next younger age group....or 2. I'm 40...she's 29. We have an absolute blast and it keeps getting better.
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Ogz
Feb 29, 12 8:36
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Heff's house...... I have NO idea where to look these days. I've determined that divorced is a given, kids are almost a certainty, and normal is a stretch...... Good luck. If you figure it out let me know.
CruseVegas
Feb 29, 12 8:38
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Re: Women...ugh. [chuckn]
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I'd say just text her back and say; Okay, I understand, best to you
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snoots
Feb 29, 12 8:39
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chuckn wrote:
Yep, I am done with pursuing divorced women. Unfortunately on Match, 90% of women on there are divorced.
Where does a never-married, handsome, nice and honest single guy go to meet a never-married, attractive, nice and honest single woman?[/
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You're in a tough place... at 40, never married, nice, blah blah, you're a target for the divorcee with 2 kids who thinks 'ooh, no baggage of his own, it'll be great, someone to share my life with and to help me raise 'our' children'... and beleive me, if the kids are young, even if they say they're not looking for a father for their kids, they are and you will be...
Now, if you aim younger - i.e 27-32 - you're in trouble cause they all think you're broken since you're 40 and never been married, etc. If you're so great, why not? is what comes to mind. So, they're going to hold out for the 'non-broken' ones, or they'll choose YOU because they're totally fucked up somehow, and think you must be perfect, cause you're fucked up too...
I dated for a couple of years post-divorce. met some nice women, but MAN there's alot of crazies out there...lol
CDriver
Feb 29, 12 8:42
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chuckn wrote:
Yep, I am done with pursuing divorced women. Unfortunately on Match, 90% of women on there are divorced. Where does a never-married, handsome, nice and honest single guy go to meet a never-married, attractive, nice and honest single woman?
On the other hand, there's a reason why some women are still single! The whole divorced vs single is damned if you do, damned if you don't. I went through the online dating thing and figured this one out.
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Feb 29, 12 8:53
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chuckn wrote:
Where does a never-married, handsome, nice and honest single guy go to meet a never-married, attractive, nice and honest single woman?
Venus?
There's something about Earth's atmosphere that effectively kills off the species that you've described.
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slowguy
Feb 29, 12 9:08
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"
Where does a never-married, handsome, nice and honest single guy go to meet a never-married, attractive, nice and honest single woman? "
Slowguy
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Feb 29, 12 9:19
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Just answer back: I'm so glad you said that. I really didn't know how to break it to you. All the best. Chuck.
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