Calendar
Retailers
Stack & Reach
Custom Geometry Calculator (beta)
More To Come...
MAIN
INDEX
RULES &
LEGEND
LOG
IN
Search
this forum
this category
all forums
for
All words
Any words
Whole Phrase
(
options
)
Newsletter Signup
Slowtwitch Forums
:
The Womens
:
Online Dating (Warning)
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
View All
Tri Forum
Classifieds
Lavender Room
Jobs
The Womens
Print Thread
trigirl19
Aug 30, 08 13:37
Post #1 of 161 (4074 views)
Online Dating (Warning)
Can't Post
I'm happily with my boyfriend in a comitted relationship but 2 of my best friends are single and have tried out the online dating thing (Yahoo, Match, Fitnesssingles). They always want me to screen the men (what they wrote in their profile) before they go out on an acutal date with. Only thing is that a majority of the men they dated turned out to be big time losers who were not honest in their profiles. They lied about everything from:
1. Their age
2. Job and what they did for a living
3. How much money they made
4. What they looked like (some posted pictures from 5-10 years ago)
5. How tall they were
6. What color their hair was
7. Whether they had been previously married/divorced
8. Whether they had kids from a previous marriage or relationship
9. Whether they seriously wanted kids or not
One 40 year old guy was still living with his mother, made $45K doing odd jobs and admitted that he had no savings or 401K. My friend asked him point blank, "Why would you think any woman would want to date you?" He said because I am fast and place in the top 5 in his age group in tri. She then walked out of the coffee shop.
Warning to all you womens to
***Not***
trust what you read on an online dating profile. (Thank god I have a boyfriend.) Probably some normal and honest men out there but most of my friend's experiences were terrible but we all had a good laugh last night.
Marco in BC
Aug 30, 08 14:08
Post #2 of 161 (4060 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
do you think that women in personal ads are any more honest? I suggest you ask some of your guy friends that did online dating and see what they say...
--
A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.
diva
Aug 30, 08 14:26
Post #3 of 161 (4049 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
False information probably does happen frequently. However, my babysitter who is a 26 year old registered nurse, met her soon to be husband on E Harmony. He is a 28 year old architect and avid tennis player. Both are committed Christians and never really hung out in the bar scene. Both worked so much they had little time left for meeting people. He was her second date from E Harmony. The guy is a total winner and they are getting married in April.
Another friend of mine, age 30, met her boyfriend on Facebook. He's an airline pilot and she's a yoga teacher at Stanford. I'm starting to think it's the wave of the future for busy people.
I had to laugh. The young nurse told me her list of requirements for a prospect were so rigorous, only two men in our city of 350,000 people met them. As with any blind date experience, caution should be exhibited.
cuds
Aug 30, 08 14:40
Post #4 of 161 (4043 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
If you read my blog, which I'm sure you don't lol, you would have read about "Olympics" who I met online. The guy is completely genuine and one of the nicest people I've ever met (he's just not for me romantically... damn! lol). And he is not the only one I've met that was this way.
Dishonesty can come from anywhere and is definitely not just on the men's side.
_____________________________________
Stop being such a scrotetard and htfu!
diva
Aug 30, 08 14:41
Post #5 of 161 (4041 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [cuds]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
Sounds funny. Maybe I will read your blog!
kittycat
Aug 30, 08 15:00
Post #6 of 161 (4032 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [diva]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
yeah, cuds, where is the link to your blog?
inquiring minds want to know!
cuds
Aug 30, 08 15:08
Post #7 of 161 (4025 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [kittycat]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
http://whatheironman.blogspot.com/
It's "hidden" in my profile :)
_____________________________________
Stop being such a scrotetard and htfu!
lkkowski
Aug 30, 08 15:17
Post #8 of 161 (4020 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I met my husband on Match.com.
My friend Shawna met Shawn on Match.com, they are now married
My friend Pat, met Pat on Match.com, they are now married.
It's not all bad!
Lori
QRgirl
Aug 30, 08 18:05
Post #9 of 161 (3957 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I met QRguy on fitness singles. Things are going quite swimmingly.
cuds
Aug 30, 08 18:33
Post #10 of 161 (3941 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [QRgirl]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
Really? Nice.
He seems really kick ass, by the way! :)
_____________________________________
Stop being such a scrotetard and htfu!
QRgirl
Aug 30, 08 18:50
Post #11 of 161 (3937 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [cuds]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
Yep. Our first date was a bike ride. His cycling ensemble was
hideously
uncoordinated but he won me over anyway. :-)
QRgirl
Aug 30, 08 18:57
Post #12 of 161 (3933 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [QRgirl]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I'm getting objections to "QRboy" and "QRguy" so how about we call him QRmachoman? We can abbreviate it as QRMM.
cuds
Aug 30, 08 19:25
Post #13 of 161 (3911 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [QRgirl]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
Who is objecting? QRguy himself? Well let him know that I will refer to him as QRMM, but to me it will be QRmentalmidget :P
_____________________________________
Stop being such a scrotetard and htfu!
erichollins
Aug 30, 08 20:07
Post #14 of 161 (3899 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [lkkowski]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
In Reply To
I met my husband on Match.com.
My friend Shawna met Shawn on Match.com, they are now married
My friend Pat, met Pat on Match.com, they are now married.
It's not all bad!
Lori
Can we become friends so that I can meet a girl name Erica on Match.com?
I've done a bit of the online thing myself and I have to admit that it seems that the women lie about as much as the men. Also, when I get into that sort of thing, my profile is pretty honest and some of my female friends that review it for me think so as well.
--
Patience isn't a virtue. Patience is a waste of my time.
http://trainingoferic.blogspot.com/
(This post was
edited
by erichollins on Aug 30, 08 20:09)
dupeetriclub
Aug 30, 08 20:30
Post #15 of 161 (3888 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I know it happens... false advertising to the extreme. But I also know lots of folks who have met their mates on dating sites. I can think of one couple that met on Match- now married, and one that met on eHarmony- they're hitched too... and lots of girls who use it and date regularly. I think it just depends. Like anything else, sometimes you get lucky and sometimes you don't. You definitely have to keep your guard up for a while and keep expectations relatively low, until you get that 'gut' feeling.
Careful out there mens and womens :)
trigirl19
Aug 30, 08 21:38
Post #16 of 161 (3864 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
Good to hear that from the responses that there are some positive experiences in online dating. My girlfriends might have gotten unlucky. It just irked me about how some of the guys could outright lie about themselves when online dating is supposed to be better than the bars since you should be able to weed guys out based on their profile information. Again though, good to hear that there have been positive outcomes from cyber dating.
lesson989
Aug 30, 08 21:46
Post #17 of 161 (3863 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I tried online dating sort of on and off for about 2 years but was always disappointed. I didn't care much about annual earnings or 401K's, but please don't lie about your height, or post a picture of you that is 15 years old! How does anyone expect to start a successful relationship with a lie, it's ridiculous. Also, I think some people just seem different in email, or you meet them and there's just no sparks. I gave up on it for about a year
Then, one weekend I was just bored and signed up for Americansingles.com just for something to do but totally not seriously looking to meet anyone A guy emailed me and even though he seemed pretty type "A" to me I went out with him for coffee; didnt even put on makeup. We've been married two years and I'm happier than I've ever been. We both pretty much hate telling people we met that way though.
Khai
Aug 30, 08 22:11
Post #18 of 161 (3849 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
In Reply To
My friend asked him point blank, "Why would you think any woman would want to date you?" He said because I am fast and place in the top 5 in his age group in tri. She then walked out of the coffee shop.
You mean that's not enough? What about if I qualified for Worlds?
<If you're gonna be dumb, you gotta be tough>
Get Fitter!
Proud member of the Smartasscrew, MONSTER CLUB
Get your FIX today?
jenhs
Aug 30, 08 23:05
Post #19 of 161 (3836 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [Khai]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
My husband and I met online 13 years ago before there was anything like match.com. We met in a MUD, multi-user domain, which was a place for us nerds to go hang out and build virtual spaces. It had a programming language that let you build some mini applications to do stuff like launch snowballs at people. Basically text based virtual reality. Big online community. He was an expert in the programming language and I started asking him questions. We got to chatting, 6 weeks later met face to face (he lived in Bellingham and I lived in Moscow, ID) and we've been together ever since.
When he came out to meet me for the first time I was living with 3 other people, including a big guy, and 2 big dogs so it was in a safe place. I admit the whole thing was really weird for us to talk about back then but now days we aren't so unique.
Dating in general is hard. I'm very relieved I'm off the market!
----------------
Jenhs
PirateGirl
Aug 30, 08 23:35
Post #20 of 161 (3829 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I have met a few great guys on Match.com. I am still friends with them. I didn't meet Cat 1 guy online, we met at a party though. Some of the guys who I met (one I dated well over a year) told me horror stories of the women he met online and their lies.
Yeah, there are a lot of weirdos out there, but there are decent guys in the same shoes as the decent gals. I insisted on spending about at least a week exchanging emails before going out. You can tell a lot about someone if they are willing to do this and keep their facts straight. Plus I think sometimes people are more revealing in emails, so I was able to really find out about the guys before I went out with them.
I could write a book with some of my stories...I met a guy I dated in college, met a guy I had 2 classes with in college, met a guy who was friends with my sister, in addition to the creepy emails I got from Kenya, Egypt, or other countries looking for a wife, the crazy long super sappy love letters (some pornographic) guys would send (clearly they didn't read my profile). The third guy I ever met on match.com I dated for 6 months. The next guy I went out with I dated for 3 months, then I met the college guy, then the guy I dated for over a year. then I met the current BF at a party. All in all, i only went out with 5 guys who were not right for me, but what they said in their profile was pretty much right on.
But the most frequent 'lie' were the old photos posted. And heck, i was probably guilty of that after a while, since I was on/off match.com over 3 years and never got rid of old pics, just added new one.
What Am I Up To?
sab2go
Aug 30, 08 23:50
Post #21 of 161 (3824 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [GhiaGirl]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I tried the online dating ordeal via plenty of fish on 2 seperate occassions and found that the womens tend to stretch the truth at times as well....2 strikes both initiated by me. I think my bikes are now my womens, although like holy wha they are high maintenence! Nothing says I love you like burning a hole in your wallet.
My way at looking at it? It's all about the first impression and you asking yourself "could I spend time with this person?" Like if you eat liver and onions for the first time and think to yourself..'this is awesome stuff, I could eat this everyday' or you say "liver and onions is a total atrocity and should never be served'.
bah! I should go to bed and not give dating advice.
LOL
-G
Oct 1 - Apr 1 training in Maui.
http://cyclinganb.blogspot.com/
Marco in BC
Aug 31, 08 11:31
Post #22 of 161 (3745 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [lesson989]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
In Reply To
but please don't lie about your height
considering that the vast majority of the women ads specify a minimum height to be considered it is pretty easy to see why a lot of guys lie about it...
--
A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.
trigirl19
Aug 31, 08 13:20
Post #23 of 161 (3713 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [Marco in BC]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
Most guys I know say they are an 1-2 inches taller than they really are. For whatever reason, the old fashioned way that women want men to be taller than them is still prevalent. For men, most people consider 5' 10" to be tall which is like the arbitary cut-off. A height of 5' 9" and anything under is considered "short". If a woman specifies that she wants a date to be 5' 10"+ but if a guy who is 5' 9" shows up, does an inch really matter? I want to say that I wouldn't discriminate potential dates based on height, but then again 5' 6" and under for a man is on the short side.
matti58
Aug 31, 08 13:36
Post #24 of 161 (3704 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [trigirl19]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
I met my girlfriend on Match.com and I couldn't be happier. However, every time I started up email conversations with people I was usually skeptical of what they put in their profiles - was it fact or fiction? Not that I don't trust people, but I think it's always better to be prepared and cautious.
"
made $45K doing odd jobs" God, I wish I made $45k.
cuds
Aug 31, 08 13:37
Post #25 of 161 (3113 views)
Re: Online Dating (Warning) [matti58]
[
In reply to
]
Can't Post
In Reply To
"
made $45K doing odd jobs" God, I wish I made $45k.
Ya, I was kinda confused by this in the OP. Is $45k not enough or something?
_____________________________________
Stop being such a scrotetard and htfu!
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
View All
Print Thread
Off Season
What will you do in the off season?
Bike focus
MTB or 'cross
No training
Run focus
Swim focus
What offseason?
XC ski or snowshoe
MAIN
RULES &
LOG
