Another lurker jumping in here...

She's just not that into you. Sure you could play some games to get a couple of dates, but she's known you long enough to know what you have to offer and if she's not into you now, she won't be into you once the game stage is over.

Right now, you are living in fantasy land with this woman. She likes your attention and she will continue to accept it until another man comes along and then she will string you along a little while longer because she is addicted to the attention you are giving her, but chances are very high that she will not end up with you. If you keep giving her attention, she may kiss you out of guilt or if you get drunk together you might get a little action but that will only make things worse in the long run because you will be encouraged and she will be feeling the same.

It's great that you are experiencing feelings that make you feel alive but when you meet your match, a true life partner, you will be doing so much better than where you are right now.

I would encourage you to put some time and space between you two, see about dating some other women, and then re-evaluate your feelings. Please don't be like my friend who is now in his early 40s and still chasing women he can't have. It's really tragic.

Don't get in the friends zone with women because more often than not, they will keep you there for good.

do yourself a favor and vow never to do something nice for a women to TRY and make them LIKE YOU...

if you do nice thing for an attractive women it screams "needy" to them....women like confidence...someone who is having a great life and may invite someone to come along with them...and by the way....looks are very secondary to women...confidence and a man that is a challenge comes first with attractive women....

I think that the reason this works is because people who are comfortable with themselves and have full lives are naturally more attractive than those who don't. When you have a full life, you tend to miss phone calls and have less time for someone else. Players will try to fake this type of lifestyle by deliberately ignoring you, but they usually take it too far....like not calling back for a few days whereas someone who was sincerely busy will call back as soon as they can. Women have pretty good instincts and can usually tell the difference. Some women will ignore their instincts, which the man picks up on and decides that she's needy, and we find ourselves in a cycle that people try to avoid by coming up with "rules" based on their interpretation of what went wrong. In other words, go about your business, live your life, and it will all work out.